Top 10 Signs Your Partner is Cheating on YOU...
Ever thought your partner might be cheating on you, but can never bring yourself to believe it? A cheating partner can only hide it for so long and the longer it is left the higher the chance that they will get caught out. So how do you know if there cheating? Follow our guide of Top 10 Signs to identify if any of them match up.
A cheating partner will start to pay more attention to themselves such as taking longer to get ready or wearing different/new clothes. These could be signs that they are making more of an effort with their appearance in order to impress the person they are having the affair with.
2. Spends Less Time With You
Constantly having to work late, having extra meetings or having to run errands at the weekend can all be signs that they are spending time with someone else. Be wary of them starting to take more evening classes, or nights out with their friends. If they keep making excuses about having to do similar things, then start to question it.
3. Less Affectionate
According to research, a drop in affection may mean that someone else is dominating their thoughts. If they don’t want to do the things they normally do such as cuddle and hold hands, or your sex life is non-existent because of their other commitments, then it could be signs that they are showing their affection to someone else.
4. Car Changes/Mileage
Work out the miles that they travel to work and to other places you know they are going. If the amount of miles doesn’t add up to what it says in the car, then it could be a sign that they are going somewhere different on a regular basis. Also, if his or her car is normally kept quite messy and all of a sudden it is constantly clean, it could be a sign that someone else has been in it. Making sure it is clean before you can get in it is also a sign that they might have something they didn’t want you to see.
Their behaviour could start to change and they could become defensive about things they are doing. Things that would not normally bother them could start to and make them short-tempered due to their guilty feelings. This could show they have something to hide. An obvious behaviour change would be if they started to suddenly talk about a new friend quite a lot.
So, you notice that every night your partner spends their evening on the computer. You know they are not doing work so what are they doing? If they are secretive about what they are doing or suddenly start going on social networking sites a lot then you should be suspicious. You should try to see what websites they are on, who they are talking to and how often in order to see if it could be the person they are having the affair with. It could just be old friends that they are talking to, but then they wouldn’t go out their way to hide it from you.
7. Money That’s Unaccounted For
If you notice on your bank statements unexplainable charges such as lots of meals out and purchases in shops they never shop in, then it could be a sign that they are seeing someone else. Cheaters try not to leave trails for partners to become suspicious of, so keep an eye on the amount of cash withdrawals they are making. If they are making withdrawals of a large amount, or constant small amounts, then it could be a sign that they are taking the money out to spend on something they don’t want you to know about. Check for any receipts they may have left around or in pockets so that you can see if they are buying anything you should be suspicious off.
8. Smells Differently
If your partner starts to come home and smells of different perfume or aftershave then it could be a sign that they are trying to cover something up. If a male partner starts coming home smelling of a perfume that you don’t own, then it’s a sure sign he has been with another lady.
9. Phone Charges
Check your partner’s phone bill and if there is a large amount of calls to an unrecognised number, then it could indicate that they have been speaking to someone they are having an affair with. If the calls match up to when they have to be in a meeting or work late, then it could show that they are planning to meet up with someone during them times. It wouldn’t be a good idea for you to call the number in case nothing was going on, but you could refer the number to a Private Investigator.
10. Hire a Private Investigator
If some of the signs match up but you haven’t got enough proof to confront them, then hire a Private Investigator to do the work for you. They will be able to carry out surveillance work and can get evidence such as photographs and video footage as proof. Finding cheating partners are one of the main parts of their jobs and they are able to do it efficiently as well as quickly.
Written by Emily Gowers
Kemp Investigations and Legal Services
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